“Is praying for my crush to like me okay?” -I have heard that question so many times I’ve lost count.
Each time I hear that question, my heart longs for me to be able to take the girl asking the question out for coffee. I want to be able to sit down with her, look into her eyes, and hear her story. To hear about the crush. To know why she likes him.
Then, when she asks, “Is it okay to pray for my crush to like me?” I would smile and then respond (with what I have written below).
You see, I empathize with the girls who ask this question on a very deep level.
I empathize with these girls because I was that girl!
I was the girl who prayed for her crush to like her back; I prayed for it, and I wished for it on every dandelion I saw and every time the clock ticked 11:11. And in doing so, I unintentionally set my crush up as an idol in my heart. He became the greatest good… not God.
Did my crush ever like me back? Did praying for him to like me “work?”
Usually… no.
And that’s okay!
As I grew older, I realized that praying for my crush to like me not only was selfish when it came to my relationship with God, but it was also a selfish way of viewing my crush!
Eventually, my prayers concerning my crush started to change.
Instead of “God, please may he like me too!” they turned into, “God, may he love You more today.” or “May he want to read his Bible today.” or “May he show respect to his parents today, even if he disagrees with them.”
I started praying for his wellbeing. That God would direct him and his decisions concerning college and his future career. That God would come first in his life. And that he would become a man after God’s own heart like David from the Bible.
Did God answer those prayers?
Yes! I believe He did.
And in my opinion, those were the prayers that mattered!
You see, when we ask for God to answer our prayers and when we pray for things “in Jesus’ name,” then we need to make sure that what we are praying is in line with God’s will- that it matches who Jesus is and what He stands for. {I talk more about this my video “Prayer Is NOT Like A Genie Lamp.”}
I eventually came to realize that praying for my crush to like me back may not be a part of God’s will for me. God might not want that to happen. However, I couldn’t see why God wouldn’t want my crush to know Him more- those prayers were in line with God’s character.
So, to answer the question: “Is praying for my crush to like me okay?”
Short answer: Yes, you can. You can pray for anything.
But is praying for your crush to like you back the best thing you could pray for him?
No.
Instead, pray for his character. Pray for his relationship with God. Pray that he would have a servant’s heart. Ask that he would be humble instead of prideful. Pray that God would give him strength against temptation.
As hard as it may be to hear- odds are that in a few months to a year, you’ll stop liking him. That’s how crushes typically tend to be- temporary.
You see, praying for your crush to like you back keeps the focus on you. Praying for his relationship with God to grow keeps the focus on God.
Does that make sense?
If you would like some ideas of things you could pray for your crush, then I recommend checking out the post 20 Things To Pray For Your Future Husband. No, I’m not saying that your crush is necessarily your future husband ;) However, you can apply that list to anybody.
I want to know: Have you ever prayed for your crush’s relationship with God? How do you go about praying for him?
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callista
and by the way i have liked him forever!!
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callista
what can you do when your heart hearts really bad because your crush is everything you want in a guy and he is pastors son 3 years older than me and likes someone else how do you get over it and also you know that the girl he likes doesnt always do the right thing but i only know that not him
lizzie
thanks sooo much! i have a few questions though… what do u do when you have supper with ur crush and his whole family basically once every week and u guys get so close, but then it looks like he might be seeing someone else? also what happens when it goes beyond a crush and you truly love this person and sacrifice things to help that person.. etc…..
Charlotte
i need someone in my life i love him with all my heart
Christian
What if I like my crush for a year and a half and I feel like I’m in love with him
Eliza
It’s still better to pray for him and not for him to like you. If he likes you, or will like you, it will happen on its own. For now, pray for him and his family. Maybe they need it anyway.
Eliza
Or her, sorry.
Lily
Thank you soooo much for this..idolatry comes in sneaky ways
Each time i want force someone to want me i instantly know that i am making this person or thing and idol
Patricia
I realised that I can still pray for this guy to accept God/Jesus as his personal saviour although he may not be the one that God has given for me. I am so happy that God has given me the opportunity to read your blog Kara! I know that God has led me to your blog to understand on to stay more on Him and how to show the fruits of the Holy Spirit which is the spirit of kindness! This time I am experiencing some pains from jealousy on some girls whom my crush works on but I know in my heart that God is teaching me to straighten up my stubborn heart for admiring a non – Christian guy. You’re truly such a blessing from the Lord. To God be the glory! :)
Unkown
😊 I was doing it all wrong:)
Tumee
Thanks a lot Kara. This is just for me. Thanks for allowing God use you to meet the needs of people with so much wisdom.
God bless you real good!
Kara Beth Post author
I’m so glad that it was helpful! :)
Blessings!
Naomi
You are perfect Kara! I had never thought about doing that before – thanks girl!! I’ll definitely have to try it out!!
Kara Beth Post author
Yay!! :)